When life seem so unclear and uncertain, when everything looks so gloomy and incomprehensible, a season like Christmas can sometimes be nothing but miserable too. Christmas, they say, is a time to practise the act of gratitude but what is it to be grateful for when life appears to be unfaithful.
Perhaps you and your spouse are going through a difficult time now and the lights have not been shinning in your house this season, pause for a moment and think of many other reasons to be grateful even if it’s just for life itself.
Attitude of gratitude
This Christmas, it may be quite difficult for some couples to practise the attitude of gratitude especially in a challenging atmosphere where uncertainty looms around them and there seems to be little or no hope for a jolly Christmas. Perhaps you need to stop and think about many more men and women who have no roofs over their heads on Christmas day. Keeping hope alive is important at Christmas and make way for love, kindness and gratitude
Drop old for new
One of the attributes of a good marital relationship is practising the act of gratitude for even the smallest things such as the opportunity to have made it thus far. Even if you have made some wrong choices this year, Christmas creates the opportunity to dust the old ways and pick up the new habits of gratitude which is so powerful that it can increase your happiness and the opportunity to live together in peace and harmony.
Every little counts
Disappointments and lack of appreciation are often birthed out of unrealistic expectations when gratitude becomes misunderstood. Expressing gratitude this Christmas for the joy of your family sitting together around the table to have a meal on Christmas day may seem a little effort but it’s certainly one to appreciate if your family are still standing in one accord. Appreciate your family either small or large and let them know how much they mean to you.
The gift of time
Many countries across the globe celebrate Christmas which is marked with individuals taking a day or more off from their regular routines to celebrate the festive period. Sometimes gratitude can be misconstrued, and you begin to imagine the great big things you are thankful for and forget to be thankful for ‘time’ itself.
Time can have a great impact on people’s lives as it can increase happiness when spent in a healthy way. It is important to appreciate the time taken out from work or your normal routine at Christmas and try and make the best of it. Enjoy your time.
There are many ways to make someone feel loved and appreciated this Christmas and tell them how much they mean to you. Thank your spouse, a member of the family, a friend or colleagues at work for being your shield of support during those difficult times. The gift of card is a Christmas tradition which expresses your heartfelt love and appreciation will not only put a smile on their faces but also make them feel very special too.
By Elizabeth Badejo